The Beloved (pbuh) and listening to others

May 3, 2009 at 10:59 pm Leave a comment

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

والحمدلله رب العالمين والصلاة والسلام على أشرف الأنبياء  والمرسلين

In the name of Allah, the Most Merciful the Most Compassionate

All praise be to Allah, and may peace and blessings be upon the most noble of the Prophets and Messengers

One of the disbelievers of Quriesh, Otba Ibn Rabi’a, came to the Prophet (pbuh) and offered him a number of  proposals, which showed a lot of disprespect to the religion. He told the Prophet (pbuh):
O Muhammad, I have some offers for you from your folks, so listen to me.”
The Prophet (pbuh) told the man,
Speak your mind, Abul-Walid.”
He said, “If the aim of what you are doing is wealth, we can give you money until you become the richest among us. If your aim is authority, we can make you our king.”
Silly as these offers were, the Prophet (pbuh) listened to all of them. Look at the Prophet’s (pbuh) courtesy – in spite of what he heard he did not interrupt the man. After he finished, he asked him “Have you finished, Abul-Walid?He replied, “Yes, I’ve finished.” The Prophet (pbuh) the replied, “Then, listen to me.” He read him parts of Surat Fussilat, until he reached the verse which says what can be translated as, “But if they turn away, then say (O Muhammad (“I have warned you of a Sâ‘iqah (a thunderbolt) like the Sâ‘iqah which overtook ‘Âd and Thamûd” (41:13). The man was scared, and he put his hand on the Prophet (pbuh) telling him “I plead to you, by our kinship, to be quiet.” So, the Prophet (phuh) stopped talking. (excerpted from

What is important about this example? That despite the ridiculous proposals the man was making, the Prophet (pbuh) listened.

This applies to the situations with both Muslims and non-Muslims. Even when you know you are right, just listen. As one scholar said: “After all, Allah gave us two ears and only one tongue!” By listening, you will win over the other person, you will hear their point of view allowing you respond from that perspective, soften their hearts, and allow them and yourself to be rational. I was just looking over the example of Imam Ash-Shafi’i, and I seriously think he was the master of these things, especially with arguments between Muslims. One of his more famous quotes is:
“My opinion is correct but could be erroneous, while your opinion is erroneous yet could be correct”
Thus acknowleding the fact that while you believe yourself to be right, you could be mistaken and this is why it is important to listen to others.
An important note of course; sometimes we are confronted with things we don’t have knowledge of and it’s important to consult those with greater knowledge, to clarify issues, explain things or get the whole picture.
May Allah allow the truth to flow from our tongues, and make our hearts firm with conviction, and allow us to listen to others and follow on the footsteps of the Beloved (pbuh).

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